Sexual Arousal and Lactation
I get aroused during breastfeeding or my breasts leak during sex. Is there something wrong with me?
Arousal during breastfeeding is completely normal, according to nurses and lactation consultants, and it shouldn't be a source of shame or anxiety. It's not a woman's choice, it's how we are wired; but if a woman knows in advance how this works, she’ll be a little more comfortable with it.
So how does it work? There are a few theories. One anthropological explanation is that, since breastfeeding can be painful and exhausting on the female body, the act evolved to eventually feel good as a sort of "reward"—suffering gives way to pleasure.
There’s a biological theory, too, which boils down to the fact that many of the ingredients present during sexual experiences are also present during the act. When a woman breastfeeds, her body releases two very important hormones: prolactin and oxytocin. Prolactin stimulates milk production and helps with bonding. It also makes women feel relaxed and sleepy. Meanwhile, oxytocin, famously known as the “feel good” bonding hormone, creates feelings of pleasure for the mother—and causes the uterus to contract. The other instance in which oxytocin is released and the uterus contracts? During orgasm.
Notably, some nursing mothers will shoot milk from their nipples while orgasming during sex—thanks, once again, to hormones. "When oxytocin is released into the bloodstream it can cause milk ejection," says Diana West, a lactation consultant for La Leche League and author of several breastfeeding books. Another illustration of the way breasts, nursing, milk production, and sexual experiences are all, biologically speaking, connected.
Excerpt from a SplinterNews.com article.
See also: Natural Parents Network: Sexual Feelings when Breastfeeding (Nursing Aversion)
Sex and Breastfeeding: An Educational Perspective (National Institutes of Health)
NewMommyMedia.com: Sexuality and Breastfeeding
Here's a mother going into detail about breastfeeding arousal on YouTube:
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Frequently Asked Questions
About Inducing Lactation
I get aroused during breastfeeding or my breasts leak during sex. Is there something wrong with me? (warning:NSFW)
Are there health concerns from breastfeeding or letting someone drink my milk?
It's perfectly fine to try another person's breast milk if you know their health history. Breast milk is a body fluid and therefore it's possible to transmit pathogens. The next biggest concern is Mastitis (warning:NSFW) which can be lessened with Lecithin and a proper latch technique. The Piercings and Lactation page (warning:NSFW) addresses this concern as well.